Advice

Chains Released

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Chains Released

Here’s a question I’d like you to consider: Who do you want most from society to accept you if you decided to wear the hijab, abaya, or even niqab? Is it your parents? Your friends? Your neighbours? Your teachers? Your colleagues? Your boss at work? The bank-teller? Society as a whole? Take out pen and paper, and list these people. Go on, write them down. Now draw a circle around those categories. Draw an arrow to this circle. Guess what?

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Crushing those Crushes

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Crushing those Crushes

Someone I know had a “major crush” on an Indian movie star. When her friends reminded her he wasn’t even Muslim, that he was an idol worshiper, she was fine with it. “He’ll probably convert to Islam one day,” she would say. This same person used to love a particular boy band. She knew all their songs by heart, and hung their posters on her wall. She saved her pocket money every month to buy their merchandise, and spent so much time reading up on every aspect of their lives she could find. In parts of the word, this would be considered “normal” behavior for young girls.

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Hear Me Out

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Hear Me Out

*First up on stage, the infamous duo: desires of the heart, and whispers of shaytaan.* – You try to lower your gaze and keep your distance, but the chattering starts, “There’s no need to make a big deal of things. So he’s a boy, so what! All the girls here talk to boys. Don’t be so shy. You’re suffering from low self-esteem, and this is a great way to build it. Plus, look at him!” You glance up – just one glance, you tell yourself, it’s ok. “He’s really cute, isn’t he? It won’t hurt if you just smile at him, go on. It’s just a smile now – maybe he’s having a hard day and your smile will make him feel better.” Almost without being aware, you smile.

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The Love You Feel

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The Love You Feel

You see them sometimes on college campuses, the young man and woman who exchange shy glances and sweet smiles when no one is looking. Or hidden in her room, the girl giggles as she sends messages back and forth with some guy she knows online or from school, all the while hoping her parents don’t find out. You know the types of situations I’m talking about. And today, I would like to discuss the concept of “dating” or “relationships” in Islam.

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“A shroud has no pockets.”

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“A shroud has no pockets.”

Reading Surat al-Kahf, I sat with my Nana that Jumuah as he was having lunch. The phone rang, and the maid told me it was my mum. I thought my mum was alone and wanted me to come home for a few hours, but it wasn’t what I had expected. She informed me of the death of a relative who was also our neighbour. She died of bone cancer. May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala have mercy on her soul and may He build for her a home near Him in Jannah. Ameen. I went to my Nana, who had just a few spoons of rice in his plate left, but I couldn’t wait for him to finish his food. With tears rolling down my cheeks like a mini waterfall, I told him what had happened. “To Allah we belong, and to Him we will Return,” he said.

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