For My Daughter

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Often times it is those whom we love who bring us closer to our Lord.

I love Allah. I cover for Allah. I pray to Allah. I obey for Allah. I am not perfect, but I try for Allah. I repent to Allah. I seek the pleasure of Allah and hope to enter Paradise through the mercy of Allah.

And when I have trouble doing these things, I think of my daughter and seek the boost that I need. It is not to say that Allah is not enough for me; He is all I want and need in this life. It is simply to admit that I am human and accept that I need a reminder every now and then to do what I know is right, to obey the commands of my Lord. And my daughter is the reminder, the encouragement, and the lift that I need.

When I get lazy with prayer, I remember that one day it will be fard on my daughter to pray. How else will she know not to miss a prayer if I do not set that example for her? I want my daughter to grow up in an environment where she sees her mother bow down before Allah with gratitude and humility. I want my daughter to know that we worship none but Allah and seek only His approval. I bow before Allah and I hope that one day my daughter will do the same, insha’Allah.

When I get tired with my hijab or start to feel “ugly” in it, I remember that one day my daughter will reach the age where she wants to look beautiful. She will reach the age where she will go to school or the mall and she will be surrounded by girls in skirts and short-sleeves with their hair flowing behind them. I want her to know that covering does not make you ugly. I want her to feel beautiful and confident, knowing that Allah is pleased with her. How can I expect my daughter to love modesty and the hijab if I become lazy with it? I cover for Allah and I hope that one day my daughter will do the same, insha’Allah.

I make mistakes. I am far from perfect and sometimes my sins overtake me, so much so, that I feel helpless and hopeless. But I have to remember that I must never lose hope in Allah. My Lord is All Forgiving and All Merciful. I know that my daughter will not be perfect, though I wish she could be. I know that my daughter will make mistakes. But I never want her to feel that Allah has abandoned her or will not forgive her sins. I have faith in Allah and repent to Him and I hope that one day my daughter will know the importance of repentance as well, insha’Allah.

First and foremost for Allah, for my daughter and for myself, I believe in the power and oneness of Allah ta’ala. Insha’Allah one day, I will enter Paradise and I hope that my daughter will do the same. Ameen.

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  • Buzybi

    Assalamualaikum,im sharing this inshaAllah.. ver well written, sister Bisma, mashaAllah! I will definitely give the source of the article as 
    http://www.igotitcovered.org/2012/02/17/for-my-daughter/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+igotitcovered+%28I+Got+It+Covered+-+Online+Hijab+Community%29&utm_content=FaceBook

    jazakAllah khair

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  • http://www.yasmin-raoufi.blogspot.com/ Yasmin

    Mashallah, words can not express how much I enjoyed reading this beautiful post! I can tell that you wrote it from the bottom of your heart with sincerity which is why its so beautiful. Hopefully your daughter will read this one day and be motivated to be a good role model for her children as well!

  • Nida

    Assalam Alaikum! Sister Bisma! Masha’Allah those sum beautifully written words expressed frm deep within & with simplicity!  It gave me goosebumps! May u be successful in ur endeavour! Alhamdulillah the mother does play a huge role in a child’s upbringing! May Allah Bless us with such mothers &  make us amongst such mothers as well! Insha’Allah! Ameen!

  • http://twitter.com/blackabayagirl Black Abaya Girl

    Very sweet <3

  • http://sippingchai.wordpress.com/ Sabirah M

    Assalamu’alaikum!  I think this is great.  I do not have children yet, but IA I hope to have them soon and I always think about my actions and how it will affect them.  I want to make certain acts consistent so that I can be the best example for my children (IA) and I raise them to be the best of Muslims (IA).  As long as we remember all these things around us are reminders of Allah (swt), I don’t think it means you are doing it for a worldly reason.  Whenever my husband reminds me to do something, I always think Allah (swt) brought us together to remind one another to do good.

    My latest post http://sippingchai.wordpress.com/2012/02/17/why-a-healthier-lifestyle/

  • Sheryne

    I read an article posted on this website about a mother writing to her daughter as she wanted to document whatever she has always wanted to share. I have been trying to locate that article ever since. If someone would be so kind as to help me look for it?

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  • Muslimah Me

    ameen : )

  • http://mehmudahrehman.wordpress.com/ Mehmudah

    Bisma, JazakAllah that was a nice read!

  • muslimah learner

    Beautiful MashaAllah, i love it sister<3

    specially the tiny cute red shoes :)

  • http://azizooooo.blogspot.com/ Aziza

    These are the beautiful lessons that every daughter needs. :)
    May Allah fulfill your dreams for yourself, your daughter, and every sister of this Ummah. Ameen. <3

  • Uzma

    Aameen! absolutely beautiful words..

  • Sheryne

    Yes, it is!!! Thank you, kind soul.

  • azhara shabazz

    too cute….mashallah!)  just love it !