Voyage Out


On the verge of voyaging out? Many of us can identify with being at a point in our lives where major life choices are waiting to be made. This piece is a four point guide to obtaining composure.

Virginia Woolfe once wrote in her celebrated novel The Voyage Out, “The things that existed were so immense and so desolate.”  My interpretation? We’re on the cusp of irrevocable change, a send off. It is through the process of intellectual growth and metamorphism that we are venturing on the brink of adulthood; the end of our university/college careers. My thought process of late has been succumbed by a mish mash of conscientious meanderings and serendipitous outbursts. Like many of my peers, I’m torn in two; half of me wants to step out into the brisk sunlight of independence, while the other half withdraws, hoping to remain in the shadow of indecision. The growing pains of an emerging adult are not easily remedied but through my own convoluted mind map I’ve devised a list of my top four breakthroughs.

1. Flee to Him subhana wa ta’ala – Remember Allah subhana wa ta’ala in all instances. In your triumphs and downfalls, He subhana wa ta’ala will always be there. Pray for guidance and support in your decisions. Life doesn’t have a cliff hanger ending for you know what actions will lead to which end, so hold tight to your faith and remember that Islam is your greatest blessing and that your first and foremost duty is to your Lord.

2. Courage – Don’t shy away from what you want but go out and work tirelessly for it. Don’t be afraid to profess what your goals and dreams are regardless of what others may think or say. Wear your deen on not only one sleeve but both and allow others to pose questions and engage in respectful dialog with you. Have the courage to make mistakes but also have the bravery to apologize when you’ve made them. Break out of your shell and muster the strength to step outside of your comfort zone.

3. Heroes Circle – Surround yourself with good and righteous friends and the title of “friend” isn’t one that should be taken lightly. You need to seek supportive friends who understand the gravity and responsibility which being a friend entails and you in turn must be equally prepared to take on such a vital and distinguished role. Provide good advice, it’s your duty as a Muslim, and induce laughter or share stories. Simply put, you need to remind your friends that you are there for them. Friendships are much like any other relationship; they require tending in the form of love and soil in the form of sweet words and rain in the form of dua’s on behalf of one another. InshaAllah, they’ll grow to be strong and lasting friendships.

4. Wear your red sneakers – Dig deep and strive to be true to yourself. There is this startling misconception that being Muslim means that you’re stripped of a distinct and vibrant personality. Allah subhana wa ta’ala created us each with incomparable abilities and traits, so praise Him and celebrate your unique gifts. You can write, paint, play basketball, design; do all of the above or none of the above, that’s entirely up to you. Don’t fail to see the power in your choices and the value of your time.

This is the voyage out my friends. A voyage of questions, countless decisions, and unyielding certainties, but much like the saying goes, “smooth seas never made a skilled sailor”.