The Privilege Inside Me


A powerful lesson in growth and self understanding that comes when we recognize our unique blessings.

I’ve heard many times in life about the strength Allah subhana wa ta’ala has given to women. I’ve heard that women, unlike men, could handle so much more. And though I heard this on many occasions, I never truly understood how that could be true. I would look at my husband, my brothers, my father, and think how much stronger they were than me, physically, emotionally and spiritually. And I would question how it was possible that I could have more strength than them in any situation.

But now, by the grace and mercy of Allah ta’ala, I understand the strength that my Lord has bestowed upon me, because He has granted me the opportunity and the privilege of carrying a child. This is a privilege that no man can ever have, because I truly believe no man is strong enough to fulfill this task.

It has been over nine months and subhan’Allah, each day is tougher than the previous one. The emotional, mental and physical toll that carrying a child weighs on a woman is one that can never be explained in words. It is only something that can be felt, something that can be endured and something that can be cherished.

Not only do we carry a child for over nine months, we are expected to continue on in our daily lives and fulfill all of our other responsibilities. And Alhamdulillah, we do. Every pain, every kick, every movement is dealt with, knowing that this is a blessing from our Creator. No man would ever be able to handle the kind of changes and pain that us women go through during this time.

We tend to complain about all the things men are allowed to do in Islam. We are often ungrateful and think that women have it harder, since we have to cover and have more restrictions on us. But if we truly try to understand the reasoning behind these restrictions and laws, we will realize that it is our strength and the depth of our commitment to Allah that we are given such circumstances to deal with.

We should be grateful that Allah subhana wa ta’ala has chosen us, not men, to increase the ummah of the Prophet (sal Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). As he (salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) even advised,

“Marry those who are loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers before the other nations” [Abu Dawud, classified as Sahih by al-Albaani].

Subhan’Allah, women have been given the strength and capability to make the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) proud among all other nations! This privilege will never be given to anyone else.

So the next time you feel weaker or “less” than a man, remember that you should feel proud and honored that, as a woman, you have been given the important task and the rewards of increasing the ummah and no man will ever be able to handle that responsibility.  After all, in Islam a woman is a walking, talking privilege.