No Breaks from Ramadan

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Tips for staying in the mindset of Ramadan and how to ignite eagerness for Allah’s reward.

With Ramadan fast approaching, it is best to be prepared for this blessed month. Many people focus on taking advantage of Ramadan by fasting, performing Salah, going to the Masjid for Taraweeh and Tahujjud and reciting from the Holy Qur’an.

However, as women, we know there is a certain time period when we cannot fast and pray. Because of this, we tend to feel disconnected from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and our iman tends to decrease.

Instead of focusing on the acts of worship we cannot perform, we have to find other ways to keep our iman high and gain reward from our Lord.

Be content with Allah’s decree

The most important thing to do is to be content with what Allah ta’ala has decreed for us, as women. That means don’t hate your period and don’t hate not fasting. Also, complaining about your situation suggests that you are not satisfied with what Allah ta’ala has ordained. It also proposes the idea that you think your Lord is somehow being unfair to you and not giving you as much reward as you deserve or want to earn, which is absurd. Our Lord is not trying to make us “lose points” and He is never unfair.

Remember Allah is Merciful

Anytime you feel down about “missing out” during Ramadan, remember:

Abdullah Bin ‘Amr reported that the Prophet said: “No (believing) person gets sick, but (his deeds) will be recorded for him in accordance with what he used to do when he was well.” [Bukhari]

I am not suggesting that this is what happens when we are menstruating, because I do not know if that is the case. However, I do believe that our Rabb, who has placed such a merciful method of recording our deeds, has one just as merciful for women.

Sickness is a blessing

Surely, we have all heard that when someone is ill, his or her sins are being washed away. So while we are not praying, it is possible that enduring a few painful cramps with patience may raise our ranks in front of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala more than praying a few Rak’ahs and may wash away many of our sins.

Abu Sa`id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with them) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: ”Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

A break from fasting is not a break from Ramadan

Remember, just because you are unable to fast and pray does not mean you should give up all the good you have been doing. Continue to make the efforts of being a better Muslimah by abstaining from watching TV or listening to music. If you have been trying to gossip less, keep up the effort. Refrain from the negative actions that you were refraining from while fasting.

Replace certain good deeds with other ones

  • Instead of going to the Masjid to pray Taraweeh, you can go to the Masjid and listen to the recitation.
  • Babysit for a sister who has children so that she can go to the Masjid instead.
  • Offer to babysit in the children’s area in the Masjid.
  • Make a du’a list so that you do not end up repeating the same few du’as over and over again.
  • Help around the house as much as you can by offering to cook, clean, or simply take care of things when others may be too tired from fasting, so that you can get reward.
  • Serve food and water while people are eating.
  • Listen to the Qur’an on your iPod or laptop while you are doing daily chores.
  • Feed those who are fasting, which will give you the same amount of reward.

Don’t forget to eat

We tend not to eat all day even though we are not fasting. There is reward in eating, since Allah has ordained us not to fast during this time. However, if Allah has given us ease, we should accept it and be thankful to Him. When we are fasting, we complain of hunger, yet when we are not fasting, we do not eat. SubhanAllah! But remember; try not to eat in front of those who are fasting out of good etiquette.

Stay in the habit of Salah times

To stay in the habit of making Salah, when you hear the adhan, go make wudu. While others are praying, take the time to make dhikr, istighfaar or du’a. This way, you stay in the habit of prayer times and you will not struggle once you pray again.

Just remember that there is a lot that can be done when you cannot pray and fast. All you have to do is make an effort to stay connected with Allah ta’ala and insha’Allah, He will help you. You just need to make the intention.

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  • Alhamdulillah

    Masha’Allah, what a beneficial article! I am so excited– this Ramadan will be my first. May Allah (s.w.t.) bless you during this most holy of months.

  • Muslimah*~

    Masha Allah, this was very helpful. Soooo excited about Ramadan! :D

    I especially liked the idea about helping around the house with those chores that others, because they are fasting, may be too tired to do.

    A lot of us sometimes take our period to be a ticket (or sentence?) not to do any ibaadah at all! But ibaadah is in our niyyah. We can make everything into an act of ibaadah. We just need to be creative, insha Allah :)

    Oh btw, I’d like to add: listening to inspiring Islamic talks and reading thought-provoking and action-stimulating deeni books, like hayat us sahaba, to the list :D

  • Muslimah*~

    Ohhh masha Allah :) :) <3

    I hope you have an amaaazing taqwa-full ramadan insha Allah :D

  • muslimah

    we can perform Wudhu while menstruating?

  • violet

    assalamu’alaykum
    i’m not sure
    but if i’m not mistaken we cannot perform wudhu’ during menstruation.
    i got this from a fiqh class.
    Allahu a’lam

  • talbah

    Wasalaam Sister, 
    Wudhu is allowed! It’s just prayer that is not allowed. Wudhu is a method cleansing ourselves…we won’t be pure..but its just another way of washing ourselves. We should make a habit of it. A great fiqh book that you can use is Bahishti Zewar (heavenly ornaments) its like a one stop guide to all of your fiqh related questions.

  • http://www.azizooooo.blogspot.com Aziza

    Alhamdulillah, wonderful tips. Thank you, may Allah bless you for reminding us of His mercy and wisdom. :)

  • your sister

    yes, true – you may ‘allow’ wudhu but there is simply no need to make wudhu whilst you are on your menstrual cycle
    menstruating women can make dhikr, du’aa, contemplation and more throughout the whole day and night however it is highly not recommended for a menstruating woman to enter a mosque unless absolutely necessary..
    to be in a state of menstruation is an act of worship for you and to not be in a state of menstruation is an act of worship for you
    there are plenty and many rewards to gain throughout the month of Ramadhaan whilst menstruating .. thankyou for your suggestions and reminders 

  • Afsah2006

    wudu in your periods? i was wondering too.

    to add to your list of good deeds, and that of the above sis and the list in the article.
    is that : contemplating on the creation of Allah (swt) [btw i just thought of this], as it is said 1 moment of contemplation is better then years of others acts of worship. :) 

    sis that is a great list of good deeds that we can do . :)

  • Bisma Parvez

    Yes wudu is allowed, but you are right there is no need for it. You can even just get up and wash your hands or something if you prefer. The point was not to make wudhu for reward or to become “pure,” but simply to stay in the habit of getting up when you hear the adhan. 

    Also, you can enter a mosque while menstruating. There is no need to enter the actual prayer area unless absolutely necessary (and some say not to enter at all) but you can enter other parts of the masjid. For example in our masjid we have a babysitting room, classrooms, a women’s room that is not used for prayer but where you can hear the recitation, the basement etc which one could enter.

  • Shaima

    ooohh! SubhanAllah! MashaAllah, may Allah acept you effort and may this ramadan be amazing for you, and all of us inshaAllah :)

  • AnotherSister

    That makes alot of sense
    jazakallhukaiirun!

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  • Kerry Aziz

    Mine too.. I have been muslim 4 years but only ever done 1 or 2 days of fasting each time and due to having a child made me miss 1 ramadan and breast feeding the next year made me miss another one so i am also excited about this ramadan InshALLAH may ALLAH help us all ameen

  • TheSisterWhoSmiledBack :)

    MashaAllah, May Allah make it easy for you this ramadan, and may He reward you for your struggles and effort! AllahuAmeen :D

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ches-Bolton/100002334696464 Ches Bolton

    I love this site. Especially ‘pieces of me for my daughter” Inshallah i hope to experience another blessed month of Ramadan.. I hope muslims around the world will become closer during this holy month.. There is so much anger & hatred in the world today, surely a clear sign that the Day of Judgement is at hand..

  • yanee hamzani

    thank you for this article!was eagerly waiting for ramadan only to find out i couldnt on the first night.ramadan kareem

  • SisterlyHugsXxx

    Ameeeen sista <3

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