Ya Ummi: Shy Girl


Wanting to break out of her shell, one of our sisters writes:

Ya Ummi,

I’m a really shy girl, but I want to make more Muslim friends! You know how there’s that group of people that are always active when it comes to religious things like events and seminars? Well I’d like to spend time with them, but I’m too shy to go up to them and say salam. Plus, they are a few years older than me. How do I overcome my fears and talk to them? I know they’re nice, but it’d be really random if I randomly went up and said salam, then sort of just stood there.

The Prophet Mohammed salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said: “Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of whom you associate with.” I’m trying to find Muslim friends. Please help!

— Shy Girl


“Ya Ummi” is an IGIC column for asking and giving advice, so named because the person we often turn to when we don’t know what to do next is our mother. If you would like to submit your own “Ya Ummi” post, you can do so via the Contact form. Please note that this is not a place to seek fatwas, but rather a place to seek advice from others who may have gone through similar experiences. If you would like answers to fiqh issues, you can visit IslamQA.com or contact your local imam.