Just By Accident


A powerful guest submission by sister Mariam on how she came to wear hijab.


I am a 45-year-old mother of three girls aged 23, 21 and 13. Masha’Allah, we have all been observing the beautiful Islamic requirement of Hijab for the last ten years or so. I thought you might be interested to find out what made me don one, since only a couple of weeks before this life-changing event, I had vowed vehemently to my friends that I would never do anything so drastic.

My oldest daughter started to cover when she was twelve, even before I did. One of her older cousins visited us from England and my daughter was influenced and impressed by the way she carried herself and wore her Hijab confidently and with pride. Even though I felt guilty that my 12-year-old had the guts to go to middle school and be ridiculed, I was too chicken to wear it myself. I worked in a mall and liked to dress up and thought that covering would cramp my style.

Anyhow, after six months or so, a friend and her family were on vacation up in the mountains, and her husband, who was only 27, slipped and fell off a cliff and drowned in the river below. He left behind a young, broken-hearted widow and two little girls, ages three and one.

Can you imagine the shock, disbelief and heartache our entire community went through? This made me realize that life is precious and Allah can call someone so young and in the prime of youth, and that nobody is spared from the fangs of death, no matter how young or old – it could be me next!

So after the initial shock wore off, my instant reaction was that I had to do something profound to turn my life around, I was so steeped in the dunya and had forgotten that death is imminent, and my account of good deeds was nothing to be proud of. A few days later, my husband and I went shopping and I put on a scarf. He asked,”What’s this?” and I said,”Just make du`a’ that I keep it on.” Alhamdulillah, that was over ten years ago and I have never taken it off.


Sister Mariam lives in California, USA, and has been blessed with three beautiful daughters, two spoiled cats, and one amazing husband. She has been in the travel business for over 15 years, and likes to go somewhere new every year with my family, alhamdulillah.