Truly an awesome post. There are moments in my past aswell where I wish I couldve spoken up. What I don’t get is how if the hijab Shows a girls modesty, then why do some chase after guys and flirt openly.. I see it at my masjid aswell.. Totally kills the idea of a modest Muslimah, but that’s just my opinion.

In imam (name slipped my mind, but famous African American imam in Brooklyn)’s words: the most beautiful woman is the one who covers and wears the scarf.

Tough call on wat I wud do but I wud like to say to all my sisters in islam that NO boy/man in ur life has the right to make u feel like crud n worthless!! Let us not be discouraged by wat others say, instead let’s let the foolish ones to their foolishness n focus on worrying whether Allah azzawajal is pleased with the beauty our character n manners.

We often hear abt the hoor al ayn n how beautiful they will be but in Jannah the believing women will be much more tha them ;)

So I ask u all: temporary beauty or everlasting youthful beauty? :)

much luv to all my sisters in Islam! As salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!!!

Assalam-o-Alaikum,

dEAR IGIC I LOVE THIS MAKE OVER MASHA’ALLAH IT’S AWESOME

i WOULD LIKE TO REPLY THE RANDOM GUY…you the fact of the matter is that if a girl wears hijaab nd accepts it from her heart then she should understand the true purpose of it.Wearing a scraf is a sign of modesty nd obedience to our Creator but True hidayah comes from ALLAH (S.W.T.) alone..So what these girls are doing is between them and Allah ( S.W.T.) alone

The Random Guy, you mean Imam Siraj Wahhaj, right? An amazing person to listen to, may Allah preserve him for the Ummah.

As for your comment, you’re right, hijab is more than just a scarf. Some of those sisters may not know any better, and just need to be told; some of them maybe know, but need to reminded, encouraged with a kind word; some of them need better company, because daily, they’re bombarded with inappropriate messages and images in the media, and they have nothing to counteract that. May Allah guide them and us.

Asiya, wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Thank you for your comment – a valuable reminder, masha’Allah.

Nikhat, wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah. We’re glad you like it! Please make du’aa for the sister who designs the site, and for her family.

SubhaanAllah, I really feel for that sister. For any sister who has been in a similar situation – you don’t need to care what guys like that think anyway.

Poor girl, that hurts though. To be told – in PUBLIC – that you’re not pretty.

I always tell my husband – you wouldn’t look twice at a sister who does hijaab properly, because she won’t be flashy, she won’t wear loads of make up, she won’t have earrings poking out of her hijaab, or be wearing a form fitting hijaab. Those sisters make me so mad. You’d be better off wearing no scarf and modest clothing.

I remember I heard Shaykh Deedat saying – “If Mary were here today, none of you would give her a second glance.”

sorry – I meant “form fittting JILBAAB.”

I teared up when I read this… felt as thought I was experiencing it again.

Assalamualykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,

This was a heartwarming story that felt so real. May Allah bless the sister who had to endure the comments, but at the end of the day she will be the one who succeeds as she was obeying Allah (SWT.) I pray that she attains the most highest level of success. Ameen.

Assalamu alaikum, we shouldn’t make fun of others as our looks is something we have no control over it is a predetermined genetic affair. However Allah swa says that He is beautiful (al- Jamal) and loves beauty. Sisters should groom and take care of themselves within the lines of modesty. However unfortunately alot of muslims these days lack proper knowledge especially with regards to the authenticity of many hadiths. The Prophet (saw) said for women not to ‘remove’ their eyebrows as this was- and still is the common practise of prostitutes who constantly play with their looks to keep looking anew by drawing in different shapes & styles of drawn in eyebrows, however the Prophet (swa) was talking about the removal of the entire eyebrows (prostitues shave off the eyebrows to draw them in) and did not say that women cannot pluck their eyebrows. Some sisters look ghastly with their overbearing eyebrows and need to look more civilised by cleaning them up a little. Islam is all about the middle road/route and not about any extreme. You can tidy up your eyebrows as Allah Himself commands beauty just remember to be modest and not overdo it to an extreme. We need to use more logic inshallah.

Umm Ibraheem jazaki Allahu khayran for your comment – I especially benefited from the last statement, in reference to Maryam alayaha assalam. Whenever people mock or belittle hijab, all we have to do is remember that the best and purest women are the ones we strive to look like.

Sister Moi, did you mean the writing made you feel like you were there, or that you’d experienced something similar? I hope it wasn’t the latter! The story is very moving, though, and I hope our sisters in hijab know we’re here to support them if they need it.

Sharmin, Ameen! Even though we don’t know who this sister is, or where she is right now, I’m amazed that Allah is perhaps choosing to reward her with everyone’s du’aa for her patience all those years ago.

Constructive Attitude, unfortunately, verbal bullying is common in our world, and can be very damaging. It makes this description of jannah even more profound: “They will not hear therein any idle talk or sinful speech…” [56:25]

Muslimah, hopefully those boys have grown up by now, and are better people, more thoughtful people. May Allah guide them and us.

Sister Yasmin, I know the topic of plucking eyebrows can be sensitive with many sisters, but it’s also a very important one. The Prophet salla Allahu alyahi wasallam said that both the one who plucks the eyebrows and the one who has it done is cursed by Allah – so falling into “nams” is a major sin.

I personally follow the opinion that “cleaning” eyebrows (and not just removing them completely) falls under “nams,” and this is the opinion of many scholars. The Arabic word “nams” actually means “plucking;” see this link and this this one for further reference.

You’re absolutely right that Allah loves beauty; but we need to adjust our own conceptions of beauty to fit in with Allah’s, and not vice versa; I’m sure the most beautiful thing to Allah is that which contains the most obedience to Him. Additionally, whatever Allah and His Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wasallam, came with – this is already the middle path. So if Islam forbids plucking eyebrows, leaving your eyebrows untouched IS the middle path, and there’s nothing extreme about it.

Sister, I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but you should try not say things like “Some sisters look ghastly with their overbearing eyebrows and need to look more civilized by cleaning them up a little.” Not only did Allah create these sisters looking this way, but they are also refraining from cleaning their eyebrows to obey a command from Allah!

There are many other things we can do to look clean and well-groomed, and as you indicated, we can and should pursue these means, so long as they’re halal. But my advice to every sister would be to stay away from plucking (even cleaning) her eyebrows, and I only give this advice out of my love and concern for my sisters.

If we leave something with Allah, surely He will replace us with sometime better. And you’d be surprised – people who give up or refrain from even “cleaning” their eyebrows normally find that natural, untouched eyebrows, look better just the way Allah created them.

Salaam sister Bint Abdelhamid. I would have better appreciated your comment had it any validity sister.

FIrstly the word ‘nams’ in Arabic means mongoose (and is an animal) and so i’m not quite sure where you got this word from.

The word ‘namasa’ however in Arabic means to keep secret or to hide; or to confide in. So please do not mislead others without proper knowledge of words meanings.

the use of the namsa in the hadith explicates for the listeners ‘not hide your ‘real eyebrows by shaving them off, & to draw over them with different ones-an old arabian jahiliya practise, and by no means does the word nams mean pluck .

To pluck in Arabic is katafa or natafa (just need access to a good arabic dictionary if your not familiar with the Arabic language yourself.)

Further the website link you gave is an extremist Saudi affiliated webpage that i could never acknowledge due to their extremism/harshness & list of haram fatwas.

In islam very little is haram as Allah is merciful and kind and dislikes those who make haram what Allah has not.

As i said before lots of Hadiths are infact WEAK (please look at the chain of narration as apart from the hadith Qudsi the validity of most other narrated hadiths is very contencious issue, as to the narrators of the hadith, the contextual context of subject matter spoken about, the time the hadith was narrated and to who, how honourable/renouned were EACH person in the chain of narration etc).

what is certain and absolute is only that which is in the Quran and the Quran does not have any mention of its concern with eyebrows & so this eyebrow topic is far removed from mainstream notions of what is Quranically and thus Islamically Haram.

Islam is a religion of ease, and if Allah did not ORDAIN something as Haram who are we to. I don’t believe the prophet (pbuh) to have said it either. Let us concentrate on more important matters in Islam inshalla.

I have nothing more to argue about & don’t want to have a verbal war publically online as this would prove distasteful, inappropriate and is not what islam encourages. Let Allah great and awesome guide us all closer to divine truth inshallah and people can now reflect on both our arguments & most importantly do their own research to come to their own conclusions inshallah. We are all to be judged based on our own intellectual reasoning & Allah loves those who reflect- a criteria that Allah (swa) repetitively directs to readers of the holy Quran.

Best wishes to all who read this & Asalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuhu.

Sister Yasmin, thanks for your follow-up comment. I understand that the religion is not simply a matter of opinion, but of authentic evidence.

The word “nams – نَمْص” is the noun, whereas “namasa – نَمَصَ” is the verb.

Lisan al-’Arab defines the word “nams” as plucking. In fact, it uses the word “natf” (plucking, as you indicated) in the definition. Al-Qamoos al-MuHeet gives the first definition for “nams” as “natf ash-sha’r – the plucking of hair.”

When the Messenger salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said something is cursed — it is a very important issue. Nams constitutes a major sin. No one is ordaining anything new, sister. We’re simply following the Messenger’s words.

(By the way, a Hadith Qudsi can also be weak or fabricated, since it relies on a chain of transmission.)

And regarding your du’aa, Ameen. May Allah show us the truth as truth and enable us to follow it; and may He show us falsehood as falsehood and enable us to avoid it.

She had a 'messed up' face? More like he had 'messed up' attitude to say things like that!

“And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or those whom their right hand possess, or the male servants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women; and let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known; and turn to Allah (swt) all of you, O believers! so that you may be successful.” (24:31)