She’s My Best Friend



I was talking with an old friend the other day, a friend living on the other side of the country who I literally hadn’t spoken to in years. We were catching up over keyboards, filling in the gaps. I started asking about other friends we had both hung out with.

“What about _____? What happened to her?”

“And _______? How’s she doing?”

The answers I got made me take a step back.

“Well, we don’t really chill together anymore like we used to…She’s got her own set of friends now from her part of the school.”

“Oh, ________? We’ve been pretty good friends up until last year when she moved. She actually called me last week and was crying over a guy, her boyfriend actually. I couldn’t talk to her much though..”

“Well, I haven’t seen ____________ since years ago! She goes to a different school now and can barely be reached anymore – LOL she finally got a life!”

“And ________, I’ve seen her at school a couple of times but I don’t talk to her anymore. She’s changed a lot and she’s had her share of boyfriends… let’s just say make up has now become her closest friend so you might not recognize her hahaha…She’s still friends with __________ and remember how much ________ hated me? Well, she still does.”

And that was the end of my depressing email conversation. I never replied back. Remembering all the good times I had spent together with these sisters got me thinking: Is this how all relationships are? Bonds that were once based on love and friendship twisted into…nothing?

Countless times we are reminded to have good friends as they truly either make you or break you. Alhamdulillah for the blessing of Islam,

…where there are no different paths to walk on except for right and wrong – and when we’re in the wrong, there are friends there to help guide us back.

…where we can make friends with practically every other woman we see who dons the Hijab, and can immediately relate to and understand the struggles the other goes through.

…where we are bound with rights to our sisters: to reply to their salams and sneezes, visit them when they are sick, accept their invitations, give them sincere advice, and pray janazah for them; it’s relationship from the beginning of their lives until the end.

…where every time you meet a sister you greet her with “Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatuh Allah wa barakatuh” – May the peace and blessings of Allah be with you.

…where one can pray for her multicultural family all across the world, because indeed that is what we are.

…where how a sister looks or where she buys her clothes from don’t matter, as long as Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala is pleased with what she’s wearing.

…where you can come up to a sister struggling in faith that you hardly know, but talk to her in a gentle manner, reminding her of Allah.

…where on a fasting day you can look around you and find a sister who has also not put anything in her mouth since 5 am.

…where loving someone for the sake of Allah can lead you to Jannah.

Among the seven whom Allah will shade on the Day when there is no shade except His shade are “two men who love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that.”

Seize the day. Find a friend to sit under that shade with.