Brits Do It Better



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Shaykh Muhammad Alshareef once compared North Americans with the English.

He mentioned how in England, when a person doesn’t like an attribute of another person, he or she often just says it out right. They’re very straightforward people. In North America, on the other hand, people smile and pretend there’s nothing wrong, when in reality, they may be fuming inside. These are generalizations, and obviously, there are exceptions.

But the other day, I got to meet my friend’s mom. This friend of mine grew up in England and moved here after getting married. Her mother also grew up in England and was down visiting her daughter.

SubhanAllah, there was barakah in her time and words. She was so open and fun to be around, masha’Allah. She also knew how to advise. One of the sisters attending did not wear hijab on a regular basis. She told her in such a loving manner to wear hijab, it touched my own heart.

What stood out the most was when she turned to us, her “friends.” She asked us what kind of friends we were if we let our friend go about hijab-less and let everyone see her. I felt so guilty.

And alhamdulillah, I walked away with a couple lessons.

One, I would advise my friends, my sisters in Islam, in the most loving manner possible. I would advise them from the bottom of my heart because I love them, and I do not want to see them hurt in any way.  What kind of friend am I if I’m not helping my friends become better people?

Second, I learned not to be afraid. It doesn’t matter if you know the person or not, they happen to be your sister in Islam. Insha’Allah you’ll be enjoining good so there is no need to be afraid. Besides, there should be no fear in religion. Before, I would sometimes hold back from advising people because I didn’t want to offend them, but I realize I want the best for these people. So I will let them know, insha’Allah, with hikmah, what is best, according to Islam.

Something else I recently learned: say it before it’s too late. Life is short. We’re responsible for advising those we know, and death has a habit of coming unexpected. You’ll regret not telling your friend, for example, to wear hijab when it’s too late to do so, whether it be because of death or any other reason.

So, I leave each one of you with this: Be the best friend you can be. Show through example. Advise with hikmah. Don’t be afriad to enjoin good. Be united in Jannah with those whom you love.

May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala allow us to properly follow His deen and to die upon His path. Ameen!