The Elusive “Why?”



This infamous question always manages to come up. Sisters cower and cringe. Some hang their heads in shame. Others become defiant. Others yet, accusing and some, sad.

So, what is this question? Are you ready for it?

It is…

“Why don’t YOU wear hijab?”

We’re not here to judge. We’re here to love and help. (Though, without a doubt, some cases need tough love).

I began wearing hijab at a young age so this may be a reason why I cannot understand the struggles sisters go through trying to wear hijab at later ages. But this is a question I would like to understand, along with many other people, I’m sure. Your help is needed.

Shaykh Muhammad Alshareef mentioned during the Breach of Covenant class, that for getting from point A to point B, you need to know three things:

1. Where you are (point A)
2. Your destination (point B)
3. How you’re getting there

I thought this applied nicely to hijab as well. We can walk through these together.

Let’s begin at 1. Where are you right now? Not wearing Hijab but wanting to. Let’s spend a little time on this. I’d like YOUR input InshaAllah.

Why does someone not wear hijab? What holds them back? What are some of the reasons? Is there something deeper holding them back? Do they understand hijab? Do they want to wear hijab? What may have turned them off from hijab? Leave your thoughts and add on anything else you believe is relevant.

This is going to be an “open thread” of sorts so feel free to throw in your two rupees. It’s all appreciated and much needed. Responses from both hijabis, non-hijabis, and even brothers are welcome.

Remember, this is not meant to be an “I’m-holier-than-thou” rant nor is it supposed to be accusing. Without understanding where we stand right now, we cannot move forward. Time, on the other hand, keeps ticking away.

So without further adieu, post away…